We have sadly sold out of our 1st premiere issue that was released in January 2014 (though some distributors may still have copies!). But we are excited to present to you Rad Dad Issue 2 to get us through the summer months. We wanted a cover to reclaim father's day from the stereotypes of mainstream fathering, to show a nurturing, loving interaction. With that said, we are so happy to present to you the cover of Rad Dad Magazine: Issue 2. Photo by Heidi Yount and design by Kyle Knobel.
As many know Rad Dad is now a magazine, and we are
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Rad Families Meet
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Dad. Plus cover artist Robert Trujillo and other contributors!
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Hello Rad Dad Supporters! Rad Dad is growing up! And I need your help to make it successful. Along with Hip Mama, Rad Dad is going to redesign its look to better reach more and more people!
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Rad Dad 22 and 23: the last two issues of the zine
I'm pleased to announce that you can now purchase all Rad Dad books and zines on this site and, if you do it now, I can email them out in time for Father's Day (which as we all know is everyday...).
The other day I
found myself exclaiming to my two daughters, sixteen and fourteen respectively,
don’t have sex until you’re in your twenties, but here are some condoms.
I’m not sure if
there is a better example of sending a mixed message.
I should
explain.The other night I
discovered my oldest daughter had spent the night with her boyfriend.
Now, I have
consistently brought up sex with them and with their older brother who now
lives on his own with a gaggle of twenty something young men in West
Oakland.And I have consistently
been rebuffed, scoffed at, silenced by their stares, punctuated with a rolling
of the eyes or a sigh of exhaustion.
‘Dad, please…..’
But I don’t let
it stop me.I know I’m not someone
they want to confide in, and I actually cringe thinking about it if they
did.But I want to approach the
discussion of their bodies, their rights, sex in general differently than the
terse warning I received from my father to keep my dick in my pants or the
silence around the subject from my mother.
There is nothing
wrong with sex; it’s powerful and beautiful and a profound ritual of entering
adulthood.
Clearly, it’s
also something they see all around them so to pretend they aren’t aware of it,
even that they don’t have opportunities to engage in it, would be blatant
denial.
And parenting by
denial is never a good approach to raising children.
However, even
though I broach the subject any chance I get, we don’t actually talk as
directly as I’d like.And that’s
why I know I need help, from other adults in our lives to examples of people or
movements reclaiming the body, offering other ways to view sex, that might empower
young women.
Sadly, there’s
not a lot out there for them; besides a few adult women in their lives that
they can turn to in need, there is almost nothing in mainstream society that
speaks to young women about their growth and desires in sex positive, yet
realistic and honest ways.
So I find myself
saying things like, I don’t think you should have sex until you’re older;
however, here are condoms
But now I also
add every chance I get, and remember…
Remember…
Please, remember…
…you can always
stop, you can always say no, even after you’re in the car, in the room, out of
your clothes, in the bed.
No means no.
Stop means stop.
In an attempt to
provide those positive examples of body ownership and empowerment, I searched
out zines about self--defense, about sexual abuse, about sex positive
experiences, things written by other young women.
And then, I
rediscovered Riot Grrrl.The
ferocity, the anger, the arrogance.There is one image of a group of young women holding hands, one without
clothes, across her chest and belly black marker declares: Every Girl is a Riot
Grrrl.
I played as
often as they’d let me Bikini Kill and other female bands as we would make
dinner or do our chores.
Maybe the
mantra: ‘who needs a boyfriend, when you gotta band,’ will seep in.
Let me back up.
I was not a part of the Riot Grrrl movement as it was born,
but I was a parent who was inspired by the relentless attention to power, to
consent, to self-empowerment.
In fact, fathering made me a feminist.
As a young
father with a newborn, I was served papers by the county of Santa Barbara to
officially notify me that I must “provide” for my child.I was served those papers, of course,
while I was rocking him in my arms, cleaning up the house I shared with my
girlfriend.The cop stood there,
scolding me that I should be out getting a job.At twenty-one, I said nothing back to him, afraid of his
power and authority.
Okay, I said and
shut the door.
But I was
fucking angry.I was a full time
student.So was my girlfriend. We
both had part time jobs.We took
turns doing what needed to get done; we switched it up when one of us got tired
of, say, balancing the checkbook (or more likely made too many mistakes).We argued and fought, but loved and
spent a lot of time focusing on what was important, our son.We sacrificed our autonomy or ability
to participate in things other 20 year olds were doing.
We were a tight,
angry fist of domesticity.
We struggled
with the decision to send our six week-old child to an illegal childcare center
that clearly had way too many children for one woman.
But we had no
other choice; she’s what we could afford.
Ironically, even
then, when I would walk up to drop him off the sitter would tell me I was
carrying him wrong.Time went on,
but the attitudes towards men as parents never seemed to change.
On the weekends,
I would bike around Santa Barbara with my son letting his mother sleep because
she was out till two in the morning selling roses to drinking partiers at the
bars along State Street.
Of course, I
will admit that balancing him, a year old baby, on the handle bars sans helmet
may not have been the smartest move a father could make.But the number of times I was told I
couldn’t parent was infuriating.I
was told I hadn’t dressed him properly, leaving home socks and shoes, or that I
knew nothing about his well being, despite being the one to take him to many
doctor’s appointments, or that I would hurt him or drop him, which I sometimes
did, but not because I was a man.
I was determined
to show them all wrong.
I took him a few
times to various classes during my first year at UCSB not because I had some
point to prove about young parents, but because I had no childcare and a number
of my teachers made no exceptions about attendance.
I remember
having to change him on one teacher’s desk after class, her face full of
disdain, her body recoiling; it was one of the most awkward yet proud moments
of my life.I didn’t then see the
irony in being so unwelcome with a child in that space.
Instead, at the
time, I apologized, backpedaled, afraid I was being disrespectful.I thought of my mother, doing the same
thing ten years earlier, telling me, a twelve year old, to stay in the car and
watch my brothers while she ran in to take her final test to pass some class
she was taking at the community college.
I realized then,
the strength she must have needed, a single mom, to continue her studies, to
persist despite the intense judgment society throws at parents, especially
poor, single moms on welfare like she was at the time.
Shit needed to
change.Even then, I wanted role
models.People unwilling to bend,
brazen, arrogant, relentless.
I was becoming
more radical in my politics trying to figure out my place in the world, my
mixed race heritage, my sense of class, and perhaps most profoundly my
definitions of manhood, of fatherhood, of gender.
How to relearn
gender?
After all I was
parenting a boy who would grow to be a man.
What kinda man
would he be?What kinda man was I?
The irony was I
began reading feminist theory in my classrooms and with my schoolmates, but I lived
it daily in my house with my girlfriend and my child.
My girlfriend
was a powerful, hardworking, woman from a poor background.She had that poverty mentality: work
yourself to the bone and never ask for handouts.But what was more stunning was that she had 100 percent
trust in me as a parent, as capable of soothing, calming, protecting, loving
our son.
She never
doubted even when I made mistakes.
No one else had
that kind of trust.
After two years
in Santa Barbara, we were leaving, heading for the Bay Area.For my last semester in the spring of
1992, I signed up for a Feminist Studies class; one of my last assignments was
to share with the class how the ideas we addressed might impact our daily
lives.It was a good assignment.
For it, I walked
in with my son, a diaper bag, filled with bottles and food.
This is how, I
said.
I got a B.
But another
student walked in with a bunch of zines, some 7 inches, and one bad attitude.
Riot Grrrl found
me.
It has stayed
with me all these years as I meandered through graduate school, as I reexamined
gender relations in my own relationships with women, as I became a father to
two girls, and as my children have grown up.
I was never a riot
grrrl but because of them I was forced to think closely about what I let my son
do at ten and what I let my daughters do at the same age.Because of Riot Grrrl, I challenged
myself to address sex in positive, open ways; I encouraged my son and my
daughters to speak with other adults in their lives if they couldn’t speak to
their mother or me.
Things can be
hard to discuss, but I want the courage to do it.
As I have
rediscovered Riot Grrrl while looking for things that might help my daughters
navigate their world today, I was reminded about their courage, their arrogance,
their fearlessness.
Because I know
that remaining silent, like Audre Lorde said, is dangerous; it’ll come back and
punch you in the mouth from the inside.
I know now what she
means by that; she means that what matters is communication, is taking those
risks to share the stories of who we are and what we believe.
So I work hard
to see my daughters both as young women and as individual people, not limited
to their gender, but not disconnected from it, to respect my children’s
autonomy and privacy as young people.
I am learning to let go of my kids and trust their power.
I am learning to keep on talking despite feeling
uncomfortable.
I am learning to listen to them.
I am still learning about myself through fathering.
Perhaps none of this is about sex education or being a man
in society today or about Riot Grrrl specifically; maybe it’s just the story of
one person simply learning to see himself and those around him as the complex
people they are: full of contradictions, fickle to a fault, sometimes brave,
sometimes inspired.
Trying to live a life worth living.
And of course, trying to hand my daughters condoms.
I have an exciting announcement for those of you who have wanted back issues of Rad Dad. Issues 1-10 will be gathered and re-released in all their newborn, toddler-like glory...if you order one of the first 50 copies, I'll through in the brand new Rad Dad mini-zine "Balls and Eyes, or how to talk to your kids about anarchism."
I'm on the road wrapping up an amazing tour of California with my co-editor Jeremy Adam Smith as well as a number of amazing mamas and papas who have come out to read and/or support each event!
I want to share with you all the news that Rad Dad has sold out of its first edition and is going to its second printing! Thank you!
The latest issue of the zine, Rad Dad 21: Occupy, is out now and has powerful stories about the occupy movements and kids as well as other personal pieces on parenting!
Finally, there is a new call for submissions for the next issue of Rad Dad, which is gonna focus on mistakes we have made (Bad Dad?) as well as the legacy of the Riot Grrl movement 20 years on...
We would like to have a number of events come Spring tentatively entitled Outta the Bookstores, Into the Parks and Streets. If you have suggestions on places to read where parents congregate, share it with us.
The new issue of the zine is due in December with stories from the Occupy Movement as well as good ol’ pieces on trying to parent in meaningful, conscientious ways...
Here are a couple good reviews of the book, which came out in September! Review 1, Review 2, Review 3.
And finally here is a list of the next few readings through the New Year. All information is also available on Facebook.
Please come out, say hi, stay in touch, and spread the word…
Rock, Paper, Scissors
2278 Telegraph Ave
Oakland
Saturday, November 5, 2011
7:00 pm
Readers: Tomas Moniz, Jeremy Adam Smith, Jeff Conant, Shawn Taylor, Craig Elliott
Russo's Books at The Marketplace
9000 Ming Ave # I4
Bakersfield
Thursday, November 10th, 2011
6:30 pm
Skylight Books
1818 N Vermont Ave (between Hollywood Blvd & Franklin)
It’s official! The Rad Dad Anthology will be out on August 1st. There will be a number of events this Fall to help celebrate the amazing and inspiring work that radical mamas and papas do day in and day out that has been the reason behind Rad Dad all these years. More events will be posted as they are confirmed.
The Avid Reader
617 2nd Street
Davis, CA
Wednesday, August 31 2011
7:30 pm
Special Guests: Tomas Moniz
San Francisco Zine Fest
San Francisco County Fair Building, in Golden Gate Park
Saturday and Sunday, September 3 & 4, 2011
All Day
Libertalia Autonomous Space
280 Broadway Room 200
Providence, RI
Friday September 16, 2011
3:30 pm
Special Guest: Tomas Moniz and Jeremy Adam Smith
Bluestockings
172 Allen Street
Manhattan, NY
Saturday, September17, 2011
7:30pm
Special Guest: Tomas Moniz, Jeremy Adam Smith, and Ayun Halliday
Brooklyn Bookfair
BROOKLYN BOROUGH HALL
209 JORALEMON STREET
Sunday, September18, 2011
All Day
Special Guest: Tomas Moniz and Jeremy Adam Smith
Woodenshoe Anarchist Collective
704 South Street
Philadelphia, PA
Monday, September 19, 2011
7:00 pm
Special Guest: Tomas Moniz and Jeremy Adam Smith
Positive Force
Washington, DC
Saturday, September 23, 2011
All Day
Special Guests: Tomas Moniz, Mark Anderson, and others
Baltimore Bookfair
600 BLOCK NORTH CHARLES STREET
Baltimore, MD
Sunday, September 24, 2011
All Day
Special Guests: Tomas Moniz
Modern Times
2919 24th St
San Francisco, CA
Thursday, September 29, 2011
7:00 pm
Readers: Tomas, Jeremy, Shawn
Reach And Teach
178 South Blvd
San Mateo, CA
Saturday, October 1, 2011
3:00 pm
Special Guest: Tomas Moniz and Jeremy Adam Smith
LitCrawl
Oddball Films, 250 Capp St
San Francisco, CA
Saturday, October 15, 2011
6:00 – 7:00
Readers: Tomas, Shawn,
Rock, Paper, Scissors
2278 Telegraph Ave
Oakland
Saturday, November 5, 2011
7:00 pm
Readers: Tomas, Jeremy
Russo's Books at The Marketplace
9000 Ming Ave # I4
Bakersfield
Thursday, November 10th, 2011
630 pm
Skylight Books
1818 N Vermont Ave (between Hollywood Blvd & Franklin)
Los Angeles, CA 90027
Nov 12
Saturday afternoon
We also have an event Jan 14th at Book Soup in LA.
It’s official! The Rad Dad Anthology will be out on August 1st. There will be a number of events this Fall to help celebrate the amazing and inspiring work that radical mamas and papas do day in and day out that has been the reason behind Rad Dad all these years. There will be a wonderful list of readers such as Ariel Gore in Portland, Nikki McClure and Sky Cosby in Olympia, Ayun Halliday in NYC. More events will be posted as they are confirmed.
Copperfield’s Books Sebastopol, CA Saturday, July 23, 2011 1:00pm Celebrating the release of Petals and Bones Zine
Timberland Regional Library Olympia, WA Wednesday, August 03, 2011 7:30 PM Special Guest: Nikki McClure, Sky Cosby and others
Richard Hugo House Seattle, WA Thursday, August 4, 2011 7:00pm Special Guest: Corbin Lewers,
Powell's City of Books on Burnside Portland, OR Friday, August 5th, 2011 7:30pm Special Guest: Ariel Gore
Zephyr Books Reno, NV Saturday, August 20, 2011 6:00 pm
Brooklyn Bookfair Brooklyn, NY Sunday, September 18, 2011 All Day
Bluestockings Manhattan, NY Sunday, September 18, 2011 7:30pm Special Guest: Ayun Halliday
Woodenshoe Anarchist Collective Philadelphia, PA Monday, September 19, 2011 7:00 pm
Baltimore Bookfair Baltimore, MD Sunday, September 24, 2011 All Day
The Avid Reader Davis, CA Wednesday, August 31, 2011 7:30 pm
Reach And Teach San Mateo, CA Saturday, October 1, 2011 3:00 pm
available right now from Microcosm is the latest issue of Rad Dad! Here's their review:
Hot on the heals of Rad Dad 19, we're excited to announce the release of issue 20! This issues features articles about special needs children, traditional Japanese grandparents, queer male allies, and an interview with Brian Heagney—the author, illustrator, and publisher of the kid's book, The ABCs of Anarchism. Some of this issue is learning lessons from your children—or even them teaching you lessons—and as always, Rad Dad is a forum and a source of hope that parents and children can one day be welcomed in radical spaces. This is important reading—vital stuff for parents and nonparents alike.
and following that there will be lots of readings and mini-zine tours and lots of fun...join us, read with us, write for us...
tentative events --
July 23rd in Santa Rosa
Aug 2 - 9 mini Northwest zine tour and Portland zine fest
Aug 28 - Sept 4th Bay Area zine tour and SF zine fest
Sept 18 - 26th Brooklyn bookfair, Philly reading, Baltimore bookfair
